Easily the second most popular question I get (following "When are you due?") is "Do you know if it's a boy or a girl?" As of this very moment, I don't know. My gut feeling is boy, and I'll find out for sure at the end of next week.
When I tell people this, it's usually followed up by something along the lines of, "Well, what do you want it to be?" And my honest answer? Other than healthy, I don't care. I'm not masking any secret hopes with that fairly standard response either.
You see, I'm a boy mama right now. And it's my comfort zone. I'm also the aunt to three nephews, so boys are familiar to me, not intimidating. My boy is active and busy, yes. But he's also low key, even tempered, and mostly drama free. Am I particularly interested in tractors, trains, bulldozers, truck, and cars? Um, no. But I love picking these things out for him and I never walk by the pink aisle at the toy store and long to fill my cart with Barbie and Ken.
Also? I love the relationship with my two oldest nephews have. They're a little over 2 years apart in age and are best friends. They play together all day and don't like to do anything without the other. I see that bond and I want Camden to have it. And yes, I do know that boy-girl siblings can be close and have special bonds too. I'm crazy about my own brother. But I do think there's something unique about the relationship between same gender siblings.
And I already have a little boy name in mind that I love and I am horrid at picking out girl names.
Having said all of that, if we go to the ultrasound next week and find out we are expecting a little girl, I will be thrilled. A girl would be different. It would be a new experience for me as a mom, and while new experiences do require stepping out of my comfort zone a bit, I know how rewarding it could be too. She would be the first granddaughter in our family, which would be neat. And, oh my-- how I love little infant sundresses and those big, ridiculous hair bows. I wouldn't mind painting tiny toes (okay, I'll be honest here: Camden may or may not currently have his toes painted) and watching a pig tailed head run around the house.
So, truly, it's a win-win for us and I am so incredibly thankful to be in this situation again. Now, we just count down the days until I get to see this little one for the first time since he/she was a 6 week old tiny blob!
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That's exactly how I felt this time. A second girl would have been amazing for Laura - a built in best friend. But getting a little boy to round out our family was amazing - one of each!
I feel exactly the same way.
I can't wait to hear!
I'll be honest, I went into my ultrasound thinking I felt the same way. Just opposite. I only have sisters, husband only has sisters, sister has a girl, sister-in-law has a girl. I love my girl, and girls are what I know.
I thought I'd be fine either way, but I was so sure I had another girl coming that finding out it's a boy was actually a really big shock, and I didn't realize until then how strong my preference was. It was really hard this past week coming to terms both with having a boy and my feelings about being upset in the first place.
I'm coming around to it, and I like your perspective a lot. I know I'll be fine in time, and I hope that everything goes well for you for a healthy whatever it is!
I truly have no preference when it comes to getting a new nephew or niece out of you, but I just can't stand this waiting to find out. :) I think a win-win is a good way to describe it, and whoever is born into your family is who you were meant to have. I will say, though, that the boy name you've chosen makes me want another nephew ever so slightly more, but I am sure you can come up with an adorable little girl name too! :)
so exciting! can't wait to hear the news!
I am so with you on this. There are pros and cons to each and I'd love to have both, is that possible?? I'm glad you have a boy name, b/c if we have a boy, he will probably be nameless, but we can't agree on one....but we do have a girl name. Do you share your names?
I share names before the baby comes but not until we know gender and not until I am 100% certain Matt's on board. What about you?
Oh so exciting!!!
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